I used to think self care was selfish.
If I’m honest, it was because I was jealous. As a classic overly responsible, perfectionistic overachiever, the thing I most longed for was the ability to say no and find rest.
And so, because I didn’t understand and couldn’t seem to manage my own self care, I was critical of it.
But then, like scales falling from my eyes, I began to see. It wasn’t until I took a serious look at my own unhealthy practices and dynamics that I realized how they were affecting my ability to live—and thrive—in the fullest way.
And then the epiphany came: self care is like breathing.
If we truly want to live, we don’t have a whole lot of choice on whether we do self care. In fact, the idea of rest is so vital that God caused it to be woven into our weekly rhythms.
Honoring your body, soul, and spirit is not a luxury—it’s a requirement in order to be well. Unlike breathing, we can technically exist without self care—but it may mean we are resentful, angry, and exhausted.
How’s that for abundant life?
As a counselor, one of the primary skills I seek to teach every client is increased self-awareness and the ability to implement necessary self care.
What do I mean when I say self care? I mean practices that restore you to your truest and best self. These practices renew and revive.
So why does it matter so much?